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Zhu Liang's avatar

Some thoughts on going through the mundane.

I also find myself constantly falling back to routines and going through the motions, but I also quickly get bored of them and try to automate them or find something new to work on.

As my mom put it aptly, I enjoy the process of understanding stuff and putting it together, but I would lose interest once I get a hold of them. Be it computer games, hobbies or jobs.

I guess it's a constant internal conflict between seeking patterns and stability vs seeking challenges and curiosity.

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Michael Duyvesteijn's avatar

Thanks for sharing, Alfred! I resonate a lot with what you're going through - I feel very similar in some cases. If it's any help, these are 2 things that are working for me:

- When I put my daughter to bed, I also wish sometimes she just went to bed faster. Then she wants to read another book, or she wants to do all of the things that have somehow become part of the evening routine (I crawl and she rides on my back to the bedroom, she lies on top of me in bed and then I need to pretend I'm sleeping and then wake up uncontrollably by throwing her off of me haha, etc.). I try to indulge her when I feel like it, but sometimes I just don't. I don't think that makes me a bad parent - We all have our own needs/wants (and energy levels). As long as - like you said - I'm conscious about how I'm feeling and what I'm doing, I think it's okay.

- I'm shaking things up in my daily routine, to keep it interesting for myself. The one day I bring my kids to school carrying them (one with baby carrier and the other on the shoulders), the other day I cycle them to school, the next day I let my daughter ride her scooter etc.. Similarly for work: The one day I go to the office, the other day I work from home, the next day I work from a cafe. This keeps the rhythm going of getting the work done, but still allows myself some novelty :)

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